Why I Write to You

Dear Gabrielle, Why do I write to you? ✧ Because I Hope You’ll Exist I hope I’ll have a girl and a boy. But if I had to choose, I’d choose a girl. For all the wrong reasons. And for all the right ones, too. Maybe it’s because I lost a girl once. Maybe I’m…

When Death Visits a Foe, What Do You Do With that Empathy? We Took His Office Tea

Dear Gabrielle, My boss is grieving. Consecutive deaths, weeks apart. We don’t get along—on paper, we’re civil. We talk. We smile. But behind those polite exchanges, there is no love between us. And yet, when death came for him, I felt something heavy shift within me. Pity. Sorrow. Empathy. Because I know firsthand how cruel…

A woman looking at her reflection and wishing she was younger

The Fault In Our Stars

Sometimes, our stars fall short Dear Gabrielle, I never wanted to be light-skinned more than I do now. As I haul myself—literally and emotionally—back into the dating world, I can’t help but feel old. Thirty-four.Last year, I still felt young.This year, mortality has found me. Harshly. Bluntly. By the end of this year, I’ll be…

Dreaming of Old Friends, Locked Gates, and Haunted Mansions: Exploring the symbols of memory, grief, and self-discovery

Dear Gabrielle, Last night, I had a vivid dream—one of those that lingers long after you wake up. The Dream I visited a friend from primary school. We were best friends until our parents decided we should attend different schools. Her parents moved her to a better school with more promise, and our friendship ended…